10 STEPS TO GETTING THINGS DONE: WHAT MY KIDS TAUGHT ME ABOUT LEADERSHIP AND TEAM BUILDING
Posted: April 19, 2013 Filed under: Isms, More FC3, Uncategorized | Tags: Business, Family, family values, goals, husband, Inspiration, Kids, Leadership, Motivation, organizational, project management, Success, wife 2 Comments »I often compare working with adults to working with children. Here is a list of suggestions to getting something done, whether it is other colleagues at work or your kids at home.
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1. SHARE THE VISION
It’s never easy getting someone else to just “buy in” and do something — at least not unless there is some big reward at the end. So share your vision and get “buy in” from your team. If it is possible, allow the team to shape the vision of the project, task, or event.

2. MOTIVATION
Find out what motivates your team. My wife and I have been procrastinating about swapping out the kids play room with my office. By engaging my team (my kids) while my wife was out, I was able to have them help us jump start the small but arduous task ahead of us (since the two rooms are separated by two flights of stairs).
3. BREAKING DOWN A BIG TASK INTO SMALLER TASKS
Looking at all that needs to be completed is daunting, but when you break down the overall tasks into smaller, manageable tasks it appears doable. As things get done it is easy to keep the momentum going to complete the project and move on to the next one. Do not overwhelm the team — break down the activities into manageable tasks. Be realistic with the schedule to keep them motivated and on track.
4. FEEDBACK
Asking for and receiving continuous feedback helps the team see that their ideas matter. Integrating the team’s ideas into your overall project makes them feel vested in the project. It is easier to get things done when your entire team is on board with where things are headed. In my case, I asked my kids where they wanted to relocate some of the toy “stations” so they could be involved in the decision making process.
5. TAKE A BREAK
OK, playing “Rock, Paper, Scissors” and “Mickey Mouse Built a House, How Many Bricks Did He Use?” (throwbacks from when I was a kid), might not go over well at work. However, taking a break from a task will help recharge and refocus the team. Take this opportunity to encourage and bond with the team. Remind them of the vision.

6. TEAM BUILDING
Use the break to bond. Whether or not this project is as successful as you envisioned it to be it is a learning opportunity (try to “break the eggs” and learn on the smaller or less important tasks, if you have to). Having a solid team will help with the success of future projects. We can grow from our challenges and experience and learn to work with our strengths (and the strengths of our team).
7. ENCOURAGEMENT
Keep giving the team positive reinforcement (and yourself too). Telling the kids that mommy was going to be “so happy” when she saw what we had undertaken, kept the little troops motivated walking up and down those stairs carrying office supplies and toys on those countless trips up and down stairs.
8. OFFER REWARD
Ice cream after dinner worked in my case. Again, see what motivates the team and offer a reward. It doesn’t necessarily need to be money or a promotion. Something small like a gas card or tickets to the movie or ball game would be a nice token of appreciation for having your tea, finish the job. It makes them feel appreciated and keeps them focused on completing the tasks expeditiously.
9. NEXT PROJECT
Go back to the team and see what ideas they have for the next project. Also remember to ask what the best and worse parts of the project were so that the next project is even more successful. Make a list of “Lessons Learned” so you don’t forget!

10. MANAGEMENT & PASSING THE TORCH
If you can, avoid being a micro-manager; Next time be part of the team instead of being the leader. Let the others take the role of the committee chair, project managers, etc. What better way to teach leadership then to give someone else a turn to manage a project, task, or event? You can mentor each other (if you are willing to be reversed-mentored). They get a seasoned team member with a wealth of knowledge and experience. It’s a win-win for both and a fantastic way to build a strong, versatile team. It’s also humbling and a great way to see the project from the eyes of the guys in the trenches, which in turn, will make you a better leader for the next big thing.
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YOU DECIDE – What Is Beautiful?
Posted: March 5, 2013 Filed under: Isms, More FC3 | Tags: Creativity, Education, Family, Free Range Kids, Fun, School, Seth Godin Leave a comment »“This is the old approach to LEGO toys. It failed because it required too much risk on the part of parents and kids—the risk of making something that wasn’t perfect or expected.”
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My Child’s LEGO project:
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- Seth Godin on NPR Talks About Free-Range Kids: Being One, Raising Some
- I Am Only Fanatical About Family
- Meet the Cunha Boys Podcast
- Meet the Cunha Boys
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Myths about weight loss: Health and fitness tips from an Architect
Posted: December 23, 2012 Filed under: Isms | Tags: 2013, Family, Fitness, Fun, Love, Motivation, Weight Loss, Work Out 9 Comments »I recently lost 40 lbs and went from a size 38 pants to 32. I want to share some of my tips with my readers to help them get health and fit for 2013.
Beat the stereo-types and myths about weight loss and fitness.
Paying for it
- Don’t believe the hype you hear!
- It feels good to flex your “wallet” muscles but don’t waist your money on expensive gadgets
- Buying magic pills, machines and equipment doesn’t mean it will help you lose weight
- Your body is your best weapon
- Don’t believe in Magic; Make it a lifestyle change
Lose weight fast
- Don’t believe the hype you hear!
- It takes time to lose weight – don’t rush it
- Don’t go crazy
- It’s OK to cheat (once in a while)
- Don’t be ashamed to use Weightwatchers or other similar programs to help you track calories – Check out the Livestrong app
- Don’t drink your calories – Drink water with lemon juice
- Don’t believe in Magic; Make it a lifestyle change
Gain muscle fast
- Don’t believe the hype you hear!
- It takes time to gain muscle – don’t rush it
- Don’t go crazy just “lifting weights” – try to mix it up with cardio
- It’s OK to miss a work out (once in a while)
- Be creative: play sports with friends or your kids, try different workouts outside the gym (hiking, beach volleyball, etc.)
- Build lean muscle mass – It’s easier to maintain than bulk and clothes fit better
- Don’t believe in Magic; Make it a lifestyle change
Abs in 5 minutes
- Don’t believe the hype you hear!
- You cannot target weight loss in your mid-section or anywhere else
- Hit the treadmill; By doing cardio you burn fat, eventually you will hit all your problem areas over time.
- Try this Nike Plus app to help you track your jogs/runs
- Don’t believe in Magic; Make it a lifestyle change
You Can’t Do It
- Don’t believe it!
- You can do it.
- Don’t worry about anyone else.
- Don’t compete with others or try to look like anyone else.
- You can become the perfect you.
- Create reachable goals and be happy with the body that you have
- Be healthy, fit, and happy with a realistic lifestyle (not a quick fad diet or workout plan); You only live once so make it the best you can.
- Don’t be too hard on yourself, but don’t be a slacker either
Have a happy and healthy new year everyone!
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Getting Ready For Christmas
Posted: December 2, 2012 Filed under: Isms, Uncategorized | Tags: Christmas, Family, FC3, Holiday, Holidays, Joy, Love 1 Comment »The children are getting anxious for St. Nicholas to visit them. The countdown has begun…. The tree has been trimmed, the decorations carefully placed. All we can do now is wait for the date. Here are some photos of Frankie’s football fun around the tree:
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Thanksgiving 2012
Posted: December 1, 2012 Filed under: Poetry, Uncategorized | Tags: Aztec, Family, FC3, Love, Prayer, Thanksgiving, Twins 1 Comment »
“Lord most giving and resourceful,
I implore you;
make it your will
that this people enjoy
the goods and riches you naturally give,
that naturally issue from you,
that are pleasing and savory,
that delight and comfort,
though lasting but briefly,
passing away as if in a dream.”
~Aztec prayer, circa 1500s
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Don’t Take Yourself Too Seriously!
Posted: September 17, 2012 Filed under: More FC3 | Tags: Family, FC3, Fun, Inspirational, Life, live, Motivational, Quote, Values 5 Comments »“Laugh at yourself and at life. Not in the spirit of derision or whining self-pity, but as a remedy, a miracle drug, that will ease your pain, cure your depression, and help you to put in perspective that seemingly terrible defeat and worry with laughter at your predicaments, thus freeing your mind to think clearly toward the solution that is certain to come. Never take yourself too seriously.”
- Og Mandino
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The 10 Most Important Things I Learned From My Parents And Hope to Teach My Kids
Posted: September 24, 2011 Filed under: Isms, More FC3 | Tags: Family, FC3, flower, Mom & Dad, NJ, Sun, sunflower, Sussex County, Things I have learned 10 Comments »- Health is the greatest wealth you will ever have.
- Education is the best gift we can give you; the rest is up to you.
- Respect Everyone – Treat Everyone the way you would want to be treated
- Patience is a virtue (I am still working on this one).
- Slow Down - The more you rush at something, the longer it will take to complete.
- Sieze the Day - Take each day at a time.
- Be Kind – It doesn’t take any longer to be kind.
- Be the Best you can – (truly) do the best you can.
- Family & Friends – The bonds of a family and true friendships are precious.
- The 99% Rule – Most people are good, only a few are not.
Sincerely,
@FrankCunhaIII
Brotherly Love — Loving You is So Easy
Posted: September 11, 2011 Filed under: More FC3, Photography | Tags: 2011, Daniel, David, Family, Frankie, Kids, Love, summer 8 Comments »Top 10 Movies to Watch During Hurricane Irene – With Your Family
Posted: August 26, 2011 Filed under: More FC3 | Tags: BluRay, Children, Family, Films, Hollywood, hurricane, just for fun, Kids, Movies, Sony 3 Comments »We all lead busy lives. As Hurricane Irene and TD TEN get closer what better time to catch up watching some classic films? While you are out buying water and batteries be sure to buy some popcorn as well. Here is a list I compiled for you if you get stuck. Many are available on Netflix or Hulu.
Best Films to watch during a storm with the Family
by @FrankCunhaIII

Cars (2006)
117 min - Animation | Adventure | Comedy - 9 June 2006 (USA)
A hot-shot race-car named Lightning McQueen gets waylaid in Radiator Springs, where he finds the true meaning of friendship and family.
Directors:
John Lasseter, Joe Ranft
Writers:
John Lasseter (story), Joe Ranft (story), and 14 more credits »
Stars:
Owen Wilson, Bonnie Hunt and Paul Newman

Shrek (2001)
90 min - Animation | Adventure | Comedy - 18 May 2001 (USA)
An ogre, in order to regain his swamp, travels along with an annoying donkey in order to bring a princess to a scheming lord, wishing himself King.
Directors:
Andrew Adamson, Vicky Jenson
Writers:
William Steig (book), Ted Elliott (screenplay), and 6 more credits »
Stars:
Mike Myers, Eddie Murphy and Cameron Diaz

Toy Story (1995)
80 min - Animation | Adventure | Comedy - 22 November 1995 (USA)
A cowboy toy is profoundly threatened and jealous when a fancy spaceman toy supplants him as top toy in a boy’s room.
Director:
John Lasseter
Writers:
John Lasseter (story), Pete Docter (story), and 6 more credits »
Stars:
Tom Hanks, Tim Allen and Don Rickles

The Muppets Take Manhattan (1984)
94 min - Comedy | Family | Musical - 13 July 1984 (USA)
Kermit and his friends go to New York to get their musical on Broadway only to find it’s a more difficult task than they anticipated.
Director:
Frank Oz
Writers:
Tom Patchett (story), Jay Tarses (story), and 3 more credits »
Stars:
Jim Henson, Frank Oz and Dave Goelz

Star Wars: Episode IV – A New Hope (1977)
Star Wars (original title)
121 min - Action | Adventure | Family - 25 May 1977 (USA)
Luke Skywalker leaves his home planet, teams up with other rebels, and tries to save Princess Leia from the evil clutches of Darth Vader.
Director:
George Lucas
Writer:
George Lucas
Stars:
Mark Hamill, Harrison Ford and Carrie Fisher

Raiders of the Lost Ark(1981)
115 min - Action | Adventure - 12 June 1981 (USA)
Archeologist and adventurer Indiana Jones is hired by the US government to find the Ark of the Covenant before the Nazis.
Director:
Steven Spielberg
Writers:
Lawrence Kasdan (screenplay), George Lucas(story), and 1 more credit »
Stars:
Harrison Ford, Karen Allen and Paul Freeman

The Mummy (1999)
125 min - Action | Adventure | Fantasy - 7 May 1999 (USA)
An American serving in the French Foreign Legion on an archaeological dig at the ancient city of Hamunaptra accidentally awakens a Mummy.
Director:
Stephen Sommers
Writers:
Stephen Sommers (screen story), Lloyd Fonvielle(screen story), and 5 more credits »
Stars:
Brendan Fraser, Rachel Weisz and John Hannah

Superman (1978)
143 min - Action | Adventure | Family - 15 December 1978 (USA)
An alien orphan is sent from his dying planet to Earth, where he grows up to become his adoptive home’s first and greatest super-hero.
Director:
Richard Donner
Writers:
Jerry Siegel (creator: Superman), Joe Shuster (creator: Superman), and 6 more credits »
Stars:
Christopher Reeve, Margot Kidder and Gene Hackman

Oh, God! (1977)
Users: (4,119 votes) 42 reviews | Critics: 13 reviews
When God appears to an assistant grocery manager as a good natured old man, the Almighty selects him as his messenger for the modern world.
Director:
Carl Reiner
Writers:
Avery Corman (novel), Larry Gelbart
Stars:
John Denver, George Burns and Teri Garr

Ghost Busters (1984)
105 min - Comedy | Fantasy - 8 June 1984 (USA)
Three unemployed parapsychology professors set up shop as a unique ghost removal service.
Director:
Ivan Reitman
Writers:
Dan Aykroyd, Harold Ramis, and 1 more credit »
Stars:
Bill Murray, Dan Aykroyd and Sigourney Weaver
A few more:
Willy Wonka
Alice in Wonderland
Wizard of Oz
Home Alone
Men in Black
I Am Only Fanatical About Family
Posted: July 20, 2011 Filed under: Photography | Tags: Epic, Family, FC4, Foto, Frankie, Photo, Photographic, Photography, Sports 10 Comments »I have to admit I am NOT a sports fanatic. I like to watch an occasional game (preferably live if possible). I enjoy watching everything from basketball to NASCAR to hockey, but I would rather play than watch. Maybe it’s because my father IS a sports nut (does anyone else know what is going on in cricket and handball in addition to ever known sport known to man)? BUT…. When it comes to raising my three sons I am a total fanatic. I even became a baseball coach to help out my oldest son’s coach (I used to coach soccer and was a camp counsel many years ago so it wasn’t a stretch, but still…). One of the coolest, spiritual feelings I ever got as a parent so far was playing catch with Frankie Jr. in a game situation (yes thoughts of the next Tom Seaver or Cy Young did cross my mind, but it was much, much more than that). It was his first time pitching and I got to be his catcher. There was a feeling that I cannot completely understand but it felt like a deep connection that could only come from the repetition of playing catch with your son. I felt at that moment that nothing else mattered and that to me there would be little that could compare to that feeling. I hope there are many more moments like that one, with all my sons over the years. That moment also reminded me of a spiritual connection I made a while back when I was running along the Hudson River through a forested area on the NJ side and I felt a strong spiritual presence running along side of me. It’s very difficult to replicate these moments in our lives but (now) I definitely feel that playing sports helps connect a father and a son and builds roots that will last a lifetime. A few weeks ago I managed to capture a handful of photographs when we were playing catch. There’s a bunch of cool shots and I want to share this one with you. I hope you enjoy it as much as I do.
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How Cool is This?
Posted: July 7, 2011 Filed under: More FC3, Photography | Tags: Adapter, Advance, Apple, Architecture, Art, Canon, Chris Voss, Chris Voss Show, Cool, Cool Stuff, Diana, Dreamy, Family, FC3, FollowArt, Foto, Fun, Gadgets, Gear, Graphic, iPad1, iPad2, iPad3, iPhone, iPhone4, iPhone5, Mac, Nikon, Online Store, Original, Photo, Photographic, Photography, Photomojo, shopping, summer, Tech, Technology 6 Comments »| Ever since the iPhone camera was invented, it’s aspired to be what it simply never quite could be: a DSLR. Sure, apps have helped your camera phone inch forward with simulated focusing F-X and faux filters.Faux no more. The iPhone SLR Mount gives you the real thing. It’ll set your phone photos apart from everyone else’s on Instagram in an unprecedented way (#nofilters!).This case-adapter combo lets you mount your Canon EOS or Nikon SLR lenses to your iPhone 4 giving your phone powerful depth of field and manual focus.Telephoto, wide angle, macro, or your fixed fifty lenses all attach to this mount giving you a full range of lenses at your iPhone lovin’ fingertips. Heck, you could even throw on a Diana adapter! Plus, you’ll be putting the SLR lenses you already have to use with the camera you use the most — your phone.Two loopholes on each end of the case let you tie on a camera strap, so you can hang it around your neck just like your real DSLR.Now that your favorite camera has it all, what’re you going to do with your DSLR? Purchase one here. |

































